Chickpea and Herb Salad; It was Lovely! (or not) — 32 Comments

  1. Oh how I agree! After slaving in the kitchen it your damned right to get some praise! Not too much but at least some appreciation of the effort put into the meal. After all, they are eating for free/gratis!

  2. I know exactly what you mean and I’ve never quite understood why I’ll feel that way. Like it might just be dinner, but some times, you put a lot more of yourself into it beyond that hour (or so) of cooking time. Sort of as if Its you, all out there on a plate…
    Anyways, that’s a very nice looking dish. I especially like the pasties!

  3. Katie, I am forwarding this post to a particularly annoying cousin of mine, who always devours whatever I put on his plate, but rarely, if ever, says anything nice about it. Maybe he will get the hint!!!

  4. I agree completely. People who don’t comment about the food drive me crazy. Love the sound of this and the parmesan crisps sound especially wonderful.
    BTW, the WHB anniversary is in four weeks, not two! I’m still trying to decide just what to do, but I will be announcing it soon. Nothing too far afield from the normal WHB, just a slightly different twist I think.

  5. Old Chinese saying: May you live in interesting times…
    My own husband salts everything liberally before tasting – it drives me nuts.

  6. I was brought up to believe that it’s rude to mention the food, but that was a long time ago – and it’s wrong, anyway. Much ruder not to mention it … even if it is only “I love a creamy sauce”. This post sounds good

  7. My husband gives always chilli flakes on his dish. I am very proud of me not killing him.
    Your salad sounds great!

  8. Thanks, Anh, your’re sweet!
    Ilva, and, if not praise, at the very least a thank you!
    Thanks, Mike, – you’re right, we ARE putting ourselves out there…
    Lydia, I’ve got some of those in my family, too! – Oh, but they WILL say if they don’t like it!
    Kalyn, Good math skills, eh? I fixed it. Can’t wait to find out what it is!
    Maggie, it would me, too! I’d hide the
    shaker…’ Do you read Pratchett?
    Joanna, how interesting, I’ve never heard of that… I wonder why?!?!
    Ulrike, you are a saint! He is very lucky, indeed!

  9. My grandson goes mmm-mmmmm-mmmm, I guess that his way of commenting on the food.(he’s 2)
    very rewarding

  10. Katie, that salad and the crisps were delicious! Thank you! I’ll say it even though I didn’t get to eat any. 🙂
    Really, it’s unacceptable to say nothing to your host(ess) about the food. I don’t understand people like that. No manners! There is so much effort and love that goes into cooking something for someone (or many someones). It’s so disappointing to feel unappreciated.
    Your suggested “praise” for when you haven’t especially liked the food reminds me of a Dear Abby letter I read years ago. The letter writer asked, what do I do when people show me photos of their children and I think they’re just homely? It’s so hard to think of something to say. And Abby suggested this line: “You must be very proud!”

  11. Ahhh….these too are my pet peeves.
    My Mr Stickyfingers came from a family where no compliments about anything are ever made and the food is heavily seasoned by the diner with table condiments without prior tasting. His family are critical fuss-pots too. Thankfully for me my beloved has now been re-educated – LOL – otherwise he would have been a dead man after the huge efforts required to feed 16 finicky relatives who insist on “sitting down to a proper 3 course hot meal” on scorching hot Christmas days.
    For me cooking is one of the ways I show my love and appreciation of my nearest and dearest. I cook very well too. But when no acknowledgment is made of my erstwhile efforts I feel like a deflated balloon that has skirted giddily around the ceiling only to collapse in a heap on the dining table.
    Another peeve: people who have to have their food and beverage at scalding temperatures to the extent that they will leave the table to nuke the meal/coffee/tea in the microwave to the point of core meltdown. Do these people have tastebuds? I think not.

  12. Good grief, you say it so sweetly with all those delightful compliments! Too funny but then it’s not funny. I mean say something that tells me you know I made an effort.
    Those crisps look pretty fantastic to me and a perfect “compliment” to the chickpea salad. I’d have no problem praising the cook!

  13. Katie! Hahahaha! You had me laughing at your post. I agree so wholeheartedly!!! 😀 I am very blessed that I have a big mouth though! 😀 So it rarely happens at my table. If I don’t hear any appreciable moans and mmm mmmm mmmm’s of delight suitable to me I will just flat out say it. It’s almost a ritual at our table…the voting that is. I say, “Ok, time to vote, diners. On a scale of 1-10, how do you rate dinner?” LOL, this continues through each dish. That usually prompts them to give their numeric value and have to support it with the appropriate banter :D. Schmart eh?
    Oh in answer to what do you say to someone with ugly babies? You say, “Oh what a sweet baby!!” 😉

  14. P.S. Your salad and the palmiers look fantastic!!! I think I’m going to go in and make Julia’s quick puff pastry today and make them for appetizers tonight with our salad. I wish I had garbanzo’s but they didn’t make the grocery list yesterday… 🙁

  15. I know how you feel. Even if it’s only my husband eating the meal I have prepared, a little; “Mmmm, this is good”, does wonders to my mood!

  16. Chickpeas chickpeas…I always know that as chickpeas until I came to US and found them as garbanzo :p
    Love your salad and with those crisps…makes it complete for me 🙂

  17. Jeni, It always amazes me how oblivious some people can be!
    Cityfarmer, Well done, train’em while they’re young! He’ll make a good husband some day!
    Lisa, Dear Abby! I haven’t read her in years! I think I remember that one… When no one says anything I think…I could have just opened a can….
    Stickyfingers, no taste buds and no manners. Good thing you trained your husband quickly. My b-i-l is often done eating before the rest of the family starts – no waiting until everyone is served at his house…
    Blue Zebra, what a marvelous idea! Make them all vote! I’ll remember that one..
    Meredith, exactly! Not much, just a word or two… mon mari is very good at this!
    JennDZ, dinner’s at 10:00 most nights… we’ll leave the light on!
    Tigerfish, and now I look for ceci!
    Katerina, yeah, 11,000 – amazing, I thought.
    I just read a blurb that the U.K. is looking for the oldest recipe…wonder if it will be chickpeas…

  18. Katie, you are so right! (I almost fell off as I laughed too hard, esp at the end of your post) Although I don’t mind (some of) they not acknowlege…male and kids usually brutally honest…, I take it as they have a wierd taste, not my food tastes wierd. BTW, I am so happy olive tapanede is soooooo cheap here, these two recipes are so easy yet delicious, got to try!

  19. I’d like to have a plate, please. I think garbanzos are lovely. I first ate garbanzos when my parents went to pilgrimage to Mecca and they brought them home, roast. They tasted dry but they have this distinct flavour we can’t find in any other legumes (or nuts?). Looks lovely in a salad!

  20. We all need praise in everything we do from day to day. Even for the simplest things. It makes our days so much more enjoyable when we are acknowledged. If we are not getting the compliments then we need to dish them out and then we would still be happy!!!It’s a win win situation!!

  21. You do make me laugh, Katie. Great story (and oh so true), great recipe. And when I make it I’ll be sure to call you up and say Thank You! :))

  22. Gattina, careful, don’t hurt yourself.. You’re right, there are wonderful olives in Barcelona… and tapenade!
    Arfi, I like all of them, each a flavor all their own. Stop by any time 😉
    Valli, you are so right – toss out what you want to come back 🙂
    Thank you Christine, you are so kind!

  23. Katie, I am definitely not one to lie when I feel that I have to make a comment or compliment (food or not), so I actually do what you mentioned, focus on aspects of the thing/food that I liked, so that way i am not lying. For e.g. my friend had a hair cut that made her look like a female platoon commander. So what did I say? “Wow, that haircuts makes you look so sporty!” See, I didn’t lie.
    As for your friend from Spain, is he generally appreciative of other things, for e.g. since he stayed with you, did he at least thank you for that and perhaps brought a gift? If he is overall oblivious to basic courtesy, it would be hard for me to continue to be around someone like him. I had a friend like that and we gave her the benefit of the doubt for so long but after awhile, we found the friendship unfulfilling because it was a one-way street. But I never had the guts to say anything, so I just lowered my expectations, that way I never get disappointed again.
    p.s.: your crisps look great! I’m going to do that next time I have left over pastry.

  24. aarrggh, i wrote a long comment and it’s gone!!! anyway, I’ll just keep it short this time. i truly emphatise with your situation.
    p/s; yr crisps look awesome! I’m going to do that next time i have left over puff pastry. normally i sprinkle some sugar on it.

  25. What a great post, Katie – you’ve hit so many ways to ‘annoy’ a host who cooks! In my family, we end breakfast, lunch and dinner with the same (grinned) thanks, “Thank you for the lovely lunch,” — which translated means, sure supper was a little skimpy and the meat was underdone but the effort is appreciated’ and somehow, works just as well when breakfast (or lunch or supper) was GREAT. I’ve always thought that if I started a “general purpose food blog”, this would be its title! And when we say grace and bless the food, there’s always this, “Bless the hands of its preparation”. Hmm. Another good blog name!