As on most subjects I've written about, a day later I have more to say.
First, lest some think I only meet snooty, class-conscious aristocrats and aristocrat-wannabees, let me say that I met many wonderful people in Andorra, and many of those remain good friends, despite time and distance.
Second, lest some think I'm not entirely pleased in our new home, let me say that the majority of people we've met have been very kind and welcoming, particularly our new neighbors, both French and British.
It takes time to become a part of any new community, and an expat community has it's own pace and idiosyncrasies, very different from the rest and, I'm certain, from each other.
To a large extant, what binds the social network is not common interests but common language.
In a small community, there will be people of all classes, backgrounds and interests happily (or not) joining in the same functions; attending the same parties.
Many of these people, if still in their home countries, would never cross paths with each other, let alone consider sharing a bottle of wine or 'mug of tea'.
One gentleman in Andorra had a 'man-servant' for carrying his briefcase when he was still working in the 'East'.ย And of course 'full staff' at home.
Another had been in the French Foreign Legion for 30 years.
Another had sold a B & B in the wilds of Scotland but had a Cockney accent.
There were Dutch, German, Italian, South African, British, Irish, Scottish, Spanish, French, Maltese, Corsican, Australian, American, and others; but all shared English.
Some had attended posh private boarding schools, some inner-city schools.
Most had lived the majority of their lives in 'the East', 'the Far-East', 'the Near-East' and/or various countries in Africa
Under other circumstances, these people were not destined to become friends.
And, maybe they weren't friends.ย
But they had dinner togetherโฆ. Played golf, ran the Hash, had lunch and shared a bottle of wine.
We lived in Ireland for a year; an English speaking country.
We made no new friends while we were there.
Admittedly, we were very busy during that yearโฆ
But, and this is the big BUT that is hard to grasp when thinking about moving to another country:
As an expat, when one moves into an expat community, one is joining other people who are looking to make a new life and new friends, whatever the reasons.
When one moves into an area without other expats, even an area without language differences, one comes up against the fact that most people have their friends from childhood and their friends from school and their friends from work plus their family and their spouses familyโฆ.
One has to work very hard, be very active and patient, to become part of that community.
Becoming a part of the expat community is relatively easy.
We're all in the same position: those childhood, work and family connections are far away.
So we forge new ones.
We just have to sort out the sort we want to be friends with.
I'm reminded of a favorite Groucho Marx remark:ย "I refuse to join any club that would have me as a member". ย
Comforting thought?
How about some comfort food.
After the holiday over-indulgence I crave tomatoes.
A batch of Ragรน Bolognese can go along way to assuage that craving.
The first thing we have, after the Ragรน is done, is spaghetti, naturally.
This is the second:
Risotto Bologneseย con Fagioliย serves 2
The Ragรน Bolognese makes a fabulously rich, gourmet risotto.ย Because it uses such a small amount I only make it with leftover Ragรน (recipe here)ย โฆbut it's worth making the sauce just for this!
1/2 plus 2 tbs Arborio rice (or other rice specifically for risotto โ Carnaroli or Vialone Nano)
1/3 cup dry, white wine
2 1/4 cups chicken stock
1 small onion
1 tbs butter
1/2 cup Parmesan cheese โ freshly grated
Condimenti
Heat chicken stock and keep hot over low heat.ย Finely chop onion.ย In medium saucepan heat butter; add the onion and sautรฉ until transparent then add rice and sautรฉ, stirring, for 2 โ 3 minutes until rice has white center.ย Add white wine and stir.ย Start condimenti.ย When wine is almost absorbed add a 1/3 cup of stock, stir.ย (No need to stir constantly but do stir from time to time.)ย When stock is almost absorbed add another 1/3 cup and continue adding 1/3 cup at a time and stirring.ย Before adding the last 1/4 cup taste a few kernels of rice.ย They should be just 'al dente' โ slightly resistant to the tooth, but fully cooked.ย If more stock is needed add it 1/8 cup at a time and waiting until almost completely absorbed.
At this point risotto will be thick but not stiff โ there will still be visible liquid and it will not hold it's shape on a plate.ย Add the Parmesan and the condimenti, stir well, pour into a bowl or risotto platter and serve immediately.ย It will continue to absorb liquid and the leftovers (if any) will be quite stiff.ย The risottos that we have eaten in northern Italy have all been served in soup plates (flattish bowls) and eaten with a spoon โ not a fork.
Condimenti
1 cup Ragรน Bolognese
8oz (250gr) white beans
Drain and rinse beans.ย In small saucepan heat sauce and beans, keep warm until needed.
Note:ย If you do not have Ragรน Bolognese โ make it!!!!
Or do this:ย
1 small carrot
1/2 rib celery
1 shallot
3oz (100gr) bacon or Prosciutto
15oz tomatoes
1/2 tsp oregano
1/2 tsp basil
2 tsp oil
Very finally chop carrot, shallot and celery.ย Sautรฉ bacon or ham, using oil if needed.ย Remove and set aside.ย In same skillet sautรฉ carrot, shallot and celery until tender, about 10 minutes.ย Open and drain tomatoes, discarding 'sauce'.ย Roughly chop tomatoes and add to skillet along with juices from chopping.ย Crumble bacon and add to skillet.ย Add herbs and beans, keep warm until needed.
Bon Weekend!
House update Mondayโฆ.ย
May love and laughter light your days,
and warm your heart and home.
May good and faithful friends be yours,
wherever you may roam.
May peace and plenty bless your world
with joy that long endures.
May all lifeโs passing seasons bring
the best to you and yours!
I WANT this dinner!! Now. Even though itโs not dinner time.
Please. (I almost forgot to add that โ oh dear, where are my manners? No wonder Iโm not the right sort of person!)
When you say โdiscarding the โsauce'โ, canโt you use the sauce for something else? Perhaps strain it to remove any seeds and drink it?? Virgin Mary?? Bloody Mary?? Tomato aspic??? (not that Iโd ever make a tomato aspic โ seems like way too much work)
What is that with โWe already have our friendsโ? I do understand, sort of, (I already have my friends too) but but, well, you knowโฆ.
-Elizabeth
P.S. Do you know what the English name is for those kind of beans? (They look like lingots or coco blancs. Weโve been vaguely trying to find those here โ theyโre the best for cassoulet, donโt you think?)
I need to be very good friends with this bean dish ;)) That looks and sounds so fabulous but then Iโm a push over for beans.
Actually, whenever I visit Europe and find myself wanting to move there, what gives me pause is exactly what you ahve described. How will I make new friends? How lonely might I (we) become? Nice to know the expat community is thereโฆ.
If I had not had some of mon mariโs chili in the last hour or so, I would be craving this. I can almost taste it..
Happy New Year, Katie!
Bolognese โ one of my all-time fav sauces ๐
Happy 2009!
Ragu, risotto and beans sounds like a great combo! Bookmarked
What a great idea to combine a bolognese and risotto!
I still need to perfect my (lacking) risotto skills. Thanks for this!
Katie, first offโฆHappy New Year and may your story telling and food warm us through the year.
This risotto is comfort, could only be topped if made by momma.
Thank you, Val, thatโs lovely.
Elizabeth, well not discard as in throw away forever. Bad choice of words. Not used in the recipe but popped in the freezer for later, howโs that? Lingots, I think are closest.
Tanna, me too, beans with everything!
TBTAM, it can be a challengeโฆ It was in the Vendee
Mimi, Happy new Year to you too! Chili would be goodโฆ
Tigerfish, mine too.
Kevin, itโs a winning combination for me.
Joelen, I combine just about anything with risotto!
Scott, risotto is sooo easy โ just ignore all those โstir constantlyโ types that make it sound like work!
Peter, and Happy New Year to you, too! We need comfort in this cold (coldest winter in YEARS, here)
Yup, โset aside in freezerโ works for me; thanks for the clarification. Weโve not seen lingots OR coco blancs here. I donโt even know what to ask for (long white bean?? white kidney bean???) But I remember we loved the taste.
I just made some killer chili con carne with red kidney, pinto, black and navy beans. I love the almost chocolate-like flavour that occurs. (I added a hint of cloves at the last minute โ it was brilliant โ even if it is me saying it.)