When I was in the US I had contact with people who had just recovered from the flu (H1N1), who's family members currently had the flu, who were 'coming down' with a cold and whose friends currently had colds.
Needless to say, all of those situations made me distinctly uncomfortable.
I don't want to get sick.
More importantly, I don't want to bring something home to mon mari. Being ill as a Type1 diabetic adds a whole new dimension with increased risks of all sorts of complications. I'd rather not go there.
The whole situation started me thinking (yeah, I know).
Then I ran across this post in my files….
As flu and cold season looms over us all, once again, you might want to think about making a 'sickness pact' with your 'significant other ' while you're still healthy enough to think straight.
Repeat from last winter:
How do you like to be treated when you're sick?
Not seriously sick, just a little sick; like a cold, or the flu….
When one is under the weather, one normally also has a bad case of the 'poor, pitiful me's' as well, so how one is treated can become monumentally, if only fleetingly, important.
I have both a cold and the 'poor me's' this morning, so I have been pondering this….
One might say obsessing about this, but that would be a mean thing to say to a sick person, now wouldn't it?
It's only natural to assume that the rest of the known universe would like to be treated exactly like we would like to be treated. After all, we're at the center of said universe, aren't we? I mean, it's all about me, isn't it?
When mon mari has a cold he want's to crawl into a warm, quiet, dark place, armed with nothing more than his trusty remote, and be left alone.
He doesn't want cheerful inquiries into his health and well-being, he doesn't want chicken soup or orange juice, he doesn't want to be tucked in, cosseted or in any way tended to.
He. Wants. To. Be. Left. Alone!!!
He'll suffer in manly fashion: silent at first, getting excessively crosser the more concern I show.
Occasionally, say once, I might be allowed to bring an aspirin… But "just set it down!" is the most I get in return.
I, on the other hand, want my brow checked for fever every 30 seconds.
I want someone to bring me hot tea without asking; to tuck a warm blanket around me; to run miles to the store just in case hot chocolate might cheer me.
I once had a friend, who, when someone was sick, would go to their house and clean it from top to bottom. Her theory: People always feel better if they don't have to think about housework.
That's how I want to be treated: my every wish anticipated; overindulged at every opportunity.
You can see where the problem comes in, can't you?
He treats me exactly like he wants to be treated, ie, ignores me completely.
I treat him exactly like I want to be treated, ie, fuss excessively.
Which causes me to feel more and more pitiful.
Which causes him to feel more and more irritable.
Why, you may ask, after 30 years together, can't we get this sorted?
Because, you idiot, when one is sick one doesn't always think clearly; and when one is concerned, one doesn't always either. And neither of us is sick very often, thankfully.
It's just the little dance we do…
You can see why is would make sense to negotiate treatment whilst still healthy.
Or, we can just turn into recluses and never leave the house, thus avoiding all viruses.
I'm prepared…. I have my stash of Jolly Ranchers….
In the meantime, we'll eat healthily….
This is somewhere between a soufflé and a pudding. The carrots retain their texture and add a slightly sweet flavor to the rice.
Carrot and Basmati Rice Gratin
1/2 cup Basmati rice
1 cup (8oz, 250ml) chicken stock
2 medium carrots
1 cup (8oz, 250ml) milk
1 tbs chives, fresh or dried
1/2 tsp dried thyme
1/2 cup (4oz, 125ml) Greek or plain yogurt or sour cream
1/2 cup (2oz, 60gr) shredded cheese
1/2 tbs olive oil
Cook rice in chicken stock.
Peel carrots. Shred carrots using medium holes on the box shredder. Lightly whisk eggs. Add milk, yogurt and herbs, whisk to combine.
When rice is done, stir in the carrots and let sit for a minute to cool slightly. Add the rice and carrots to the eggs along with half of the cheese. Lightly oil a glass baking dish (1 qt, 1 litre). Spoon carrot-rice mixture into dish, sprinkle with remaining cheese and bake, 400F (200C) for 30 minutes. Remove and serve.
Here's hoping we all stay healthy all winter!