Spicy Turkey with Peas and Peppers; How does one know? — 12 Comments

  1. For me, it’s when I can see suffering in their eyes, or loss of dignity that I know it’s time. It’s always a time I try as long as possible to avoid. It’s different for each pet – for my beloved Chica, it was easy – she had bone cancer that was spreading fast. For my little cat, Heartley Boy, it was the first day in his whole life when he didn’t purr. My heart goes out to you as you make the “when” decision. The only consolation I can offer is that you will know when.

  2. Trust your dog and trust your heart: there will never be a good time nor an easy time, but there will be a right time.

  3. When the spirit goes–that’s pretty much it. When even little moments in their lives seem like too much work.

  4. I just nursed my dog through a year of no mobiity. Molly had an old injury which eventually made her rear legs stop working. I made a belly band with handles and we would walk with me supporting her rear end. She was alert and felt useful sitting on the porch and barking at dogs, horses or the UPS guy. The day came when she did not sit up and participate. The next morning I took her to a very compassionate local vet who talked soothingly, gave her a tranquelizer and petted her as the drug took hold and her heart stopped Less than a minute. Thank god for our wonderful local vet. It has only been a few days and while I miss Molly the compassion of the vet made things much easier. The conventional wisdom – that you will know when – is true You will know.

  5. Zoomie, I keep thinking it’s time – then she bounces back again. I have a most resiliant little dog!
    Amerloc, I know that, it’s just harder than I had expected.
    Amy Rae, she just looks like such a happy dog – I think it’s doggie Alzheimer’s. She falls down, gets up, wags her tail and grins at me.
    Ma, how sad for you…. Dogs are wonderful aren’t they? They go through so much with no complaints. I couldn’t wake her last night…. but this morning she’s out barking at the neighbors. She just keeps bouncing back 😉

  6. aww…she has a great zest for life. What a beautiful and wonderful dog. 🙂 I would love to have a dog and a cat but who would want to help us look after our dog for 2 months every summer. 🙁

  7. Hi Katie, we are somewhat in the same boat with our lab. She is doing good, but I can see the deterioration too. She moans in her sleep (arthritis) and doe not move as fast any more, then she surprises me, and goes crazy with a frizzbie. I think you will see a change in spirit in her eyes…and you will know and so will she…it sure is hard when we love our animals so much, Ina

  8. you will know. I had a dog for 15 years and the last few years of her life she declined due to congestive heart failure when I had her at the vets during one episode I asked if giving her the medicine was theright thing or if I should just let her go. The vet told me that if the medicine worked this time I would know and for the future that I would know when the time was right to not continue. For me it was when I had to carry her that I realized it was time to let her go. Toughest day of my life. They let me hold her and be in the room while they gave her the shots. I think she was holding on for me and when she realized I was giving her permission to leave me she left peacefully. POint is you will know and then the time is right.

  9. It’s not at all an easy decision, is it? We went through that with our 18 year-old cat two summers ago. Agonizing over whether it was time – and in the end, the poor little creature that we were carrying everywhere in the last two weeks, let us know when the time was. He stopped eating – which was his favourite thing to do (aside from race up and down stairs just in front or behind one of us)
    Emma has good ideas.
    All the best, Katie, with this most difficult time

  10. This has me with tears in my eyes thinking about the pets that have left us. Each loss was hard, but the joy of their prescence made up for it. Our Daisy is only 5 so I am looking forward to many more years with her quirky personality and warm brown eyes. I feel for you and Sedi will let you know when it is time.

  11. You have received a lot of good advice here already Katie, so I’ll just add that I’ve gone through this with two dogs in the last 12 years and am now going through same with my 27 year old horse. The body (front legs) is giving out but the spirit is that of a two year old. It’s heartbreaking, but I know I will know when it’s time because she will tell me. And Sedi will tell you.

  12. Cooking Ninja, it’s hard to have pets and travel… and expensive to kennel them for long periods.
    Ina, Sedi still looks at me with puppy eyes – and tries to play.
    Grdnia, thanks – i just dread the day. I need to stop thinking about it and just enjoy her.
    Elizabeth, Emma always has good ideas about food. Sedi’s favorite thing is belly rubs….
    Penny, unfortunately, Emma is getting on in years, too… Not going to think about that one….
    Christine, It’s so sad watching them, knowing that we just have to let them do it their own way.